Types of Eating Disorders Part III: Bulimia Nervosa

What is Bulimia Nervosa?

Bulimia nervosa is an eating disorder that’s characterized by cycles of binge eating followed by purging. What does this really mean? Essentially, someone with bulimia will eat a large amount of food (think 2-3x the amount of food as someone who is in the same situation),  in a short period of time.  It must be characterized by eating well beyond the feelings of fullness and usually the person feels like they can’t stop even when they want to stop.  After said type of episode, it is quickly followed by intense feelings of guilt, shame, or fear of gaining weight.  Those feelings flood through you and then lead to purging. Purging can have various forms, most commonly vomiting or overexercising. Purging can also happen via laxatives, diet pills, diuretics or even fasting in an attempt to “make up for” the binge.

The binge-purge cycle can feel overwhelming and makes the person feel out of control.

Often, people with bulimia feel stuck in this pattern.   At the start of the binge, the person will experience some form of temporary relief from obsessive thoughts about food & body image.  They will also feel relief from any uncomfortable emotion that was present before those obsessive thoughts began. Thus providing relief from two significantly challenging sets of thoughts and emotions. 

What’s important to understand is that bulimia doesn’t always look the way you might expect. People with bulimia, just like the majority of eating disorders,  can be at any weight, shape, or body size. They contribute to those around them. They achieve milestones & successes just as their friends & family do who do not have eating disorders. The likelihood that someone in your life or that several people in your life struggle from an eating disorder is very high.

The Physical and Emotional Impact of Bulimia

On a physical level, bulimia can have serious consequences. The repeated cycle of binging and purging takes a toll on the body. Frequent vomiting can erode tooth enamel, cause throat damage, and lead to electrolyte imbalances that can be life-threatening. Overuse of laxatives can harm the digestive system, while excessive exercise can cause injury or extreme fatigue.

But beyond the physical effects, the emotional toll is significant. It can leave you feeling trapped, isolated, and out of control. Many people with bulimia feel like they are living in secrecy, constantly worried that someone will find out what’s going on. All individuals with eating disorders, fear being judged for their bodies & their behaviors.  They have a very strong inner critic that dishes out self-criticism in a rapid-fire manner.  They can look very confident at times but are suffering silently in self-judgment & fearing judgment from others all day long.

What is Anorexia Nervosa (Binge-Purge Type)?

Now, let’s talk about anorexia nervosa, particularly the binge-purge subtype, which shares some similarities with bulimia but is distinct in key ways. Anorexia nervosa is primarily known for the extreme restriction of food intake, leading to significant malnutrition and weight loss. But in the binge-purge type of anorexia, there is also a pattern of binge eating followed by purging, much like with bulimia.

However, the main difference between anorexia nervosa binge-purge type and bulimia nervosa lies in the person’s weight and overall relationship with food. With anorexia, the person usually maintains a low body weight for what is considered healthy for their age and height. The primary goal is weight loss and refusal to maintain an appropriate weight. The binge episodes, while they do occur, are often smaller amounts of food, and they may not involve the same feeling of being “out of control.” Anorexia has an “over-control” or highly rigid energy, even within the context of the binge. The amount of food may not reach the full criteria of binge but has the compulsive push behind it as with bulimia. 

In contrast, people with bulimia nervosa may be at a weight or size that is normal for the person’s body history & genetic makeup, be that large or small. The focus of bulimia is more on managing the distress of binge eating through purging, rather than the constant refusal to maintain an appropriate weight. However, body image distress & fear of weight is a key feature for those with bulimia nervosa. 

How Does It Feel to Have Bulimia vs. Anorexia (Binge-Purge Type)?

If you’re reading this and some of these behaviors sound familiar, you might be wondering which disorder you identify with, or whether you’re struggling with disordered eating at all. It’s important to remember that eating disorders exist on a spectrum, and the labels we use (like bulimia or anorexia) are there to help identify patterns, but they don’t define you.

If you have bulimia, you might feel like food is both a comfort and a source of guilt. The binge episodes can feel uncontrollable like you’re eating faster than you can think, and the purging may bring a brief sense of relief. But afterward, that relief is often replaced by shame and regret. You might feel like you’re constantly swinging between these extremes—eating too much and then punishing yourself for it.

On the other hand, if you have anorexia binge-purge type, you might experience a similar cycle of binging and purging, but it is often within the context of extreme restriction and an intense fear of gaining weight. The binge episodes might be smaller, and your primary focus may still be on restricting your food intake, keeping your body weight dangerously low.

Bulimia Nervosa Vs. Atypical Anorexia, binging purging type

These two disorders will look more similar in nature in that their commonality is that weight, shape, and size are devoid of being underweight according to the medical standards that utilize the BMI.  The nuances between the two disorders are tied to the intention behind the behaviors, emotional triggers for the behaviors, and the type of nutritional deficits in each type of eating disorder.  In short, it is best to have an eating disorder therapist & dietician help you understand which diagnosis best fits your current struggles when you begin treatment.  To your treatment team, all eating disorders are taken seriously, and not one is less severe than the other.  Often clients are really anxious to disclose binging or purging in any form because they fear being misunderstood or judged for the behaviors.  This is often because self-judgment or shame is so high and that restriction or exercise is often culturally rewarded and happens in plain sight, where binging and or purging often carry more secrecy and happen in private. 

The Emotional Experience

Whether you’re dealing with bulimia or anorexia binge-purge type, the emotional struggles are real and valid. Both disorders are often driven by feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, or and to feel like some part of your life feels predictable.  

It’s also not uncommon to feel like you’re not “sick enough” to seek help. Maybe you’ve told yourself, “I’m not ________ enough to have an eating disorder,” or “I can stop anytime I want.” But the truth is, eating disorders don’t have to look a certain way to be harmful. If your relationship with food is causing you distress, if you feel trapped in a cycle of binging and purging, or if you’re constantly consumed with thoughts about your body and weight, those are signs that something is wrong.

Seeking Help: It’s Never Too Early Nor Too Late

If you’re struggling with bulimia or anorexia binge-purge type or any other type of food or body image difficulty, know that you are not alone, and you are not beyond help. These disorders can feel isolating, but many people have found recovery through reaching out for support. Whether you turn to a therapist, a doctor, or even a trusted friend, the first step is acknowledging that you don’t have to do this alone.

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Your emotions and your behaviors do not define you, even if you feel like they are consuming you.  You can find peace again.  You can find a connection again, and you can feel like yourself again.  

Stop trying to go it alone.  You deserve more to heal in a supportive setting.  Whether you live in Logan, Salt Lake City, Provo, St.George, or anywhere in between, a caring therapist is here to help. Start your therapy journey with Inside Wellness by following these simple steps:

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2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start finding support and lasting recovery!

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When Anxiety Feels Like Your "Plus 1" for the Holidays

You are so excited to get out of dodge and spend a long weekend away from the daily grind of school. 

You’re tired of top ramen and the million decisions you feel you need to make about your major, your social life, and your relationship status, or lack thereof.  You can almost feel the stress melt away as you pull out of town and head home.  You’re feeling relaxed and hopeful that this weekend will allow you to rest and reset with your family & friends.  And then you wake up on Thanksgiving morning, only to find out that the anxiety you thought you left behind hitched a ride home with you and will now be your weekend “plus one”. Ugh, dread and worry start to set in and suddenly the thought of seeing the extended family brings on the overwhelm. You really want to be real and connected but you fear that your anxiety will be the worst plus one at the party. 

Instead of panicking or trying to run from this uninvited guest, it will be a smoother day if you can quickly attend to it and befriend it. So just like a dinner guest, you get to set the ground rules.

1. A Good Host Has Boundaries

A typical host will welcome everyone who shows up to dinner, even the uninvited ones.  They acknowledge the guests and their needs and then set expectations as to what is going to happen or not happen during their stay.  So just like that host, when your anxiety pulls up a chair and starts running through worst-case scenarios or the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s you can kindly let your anxiety know that this is not the time or place for that conversation, but that it is definitely one you are willing to have at another time. 

You are setting a mental boundary with the anxiety- not shunning it nor soaking it all in.  Anxiety, after all, is a signal that is trying to warn us of any & all outliers or bad outcomes so that we can try to prevent any pain.  While it has good intentions, it certainly has poor timing.  If acknowledging it, thanking it, and inviting it to come back later fails to work.  You can write it down on your phone or quickly text a friend or family member what you are anxious about to ask for some support.

2. Practice Mindfulness as You Pass the Mashed Potatoes

Since anxiety is the ultimate champion of reciting future tragedy and past crimes, it will often throw you out of the moment in a hurry.  You can bring yourself back into the moment as you are talking to a loved one or passing eyeing your favorite Thanksgiving day food.  Imagine you’re passing a dish of mashed potatoes, staying fully present, aware of the warmth of the dish, the scent, the comfort. Focusing on the positive attributes of those around you or the food items you enjoy can be a way of getting all of your senses into the moment. And the more our bodies are in the moment, the more our minds will be too.   

3. See Anxiety as a Sympathetic Guest, Not a Critic

When anxiety arrives, it often feels like an overbearing critic, nitpicking and judging everything about you. But what if you could shift your perspective and see it as a somewhat misguided friend who’s just trying to keep you safe? Anxiety’s job is to help you be alert and prepared, even if it overdoes it.  

Instead of fighting or resenting your anxiety, consider thanking it. Say to yourself, “I see that you’re here because you’re trying to protect me. I appreciate that, but I don’t need you to handle everything right now.” Or “Even though there is tension between family members right now, it is not your job to fix it. People can work through their feelings without your help”.  This shift can soften the emotions because once we understand the WHY an emotion is activating, we can help empower our brains to recognize that it is normal, even if it is uninvited and being “over generous” in how much it is sharing or encouraging you to do.  

4. Redirect Your Focus to the People Around You

Have you ever been to a party or event with a friend who is very social and can hold their own, so to speak?  The kind who talks to everyone and is okay to sit by people they just met?  Let’s treat your anxiety as this type of friend. You can step into any conversation or help with any part of the preparation and trust that your anxiety doesn't need you to entertain it. When it tries to jump into a conversation, quickly introduce it to your family member or politely ask it to circle back once you’re done talking or with that task. 

Anxiety has a sneaky way of drawing attention inward. Letting others know that anxiety coming up can often help us feel less alone. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your anxiety with others, you can let them know that your mind is struggling to detach from school & being busy and ask them to help you stay in the moment by asking you more questions, or giving you a task that gets you fully immersed in the moment. 

Another idea is that you can shift into active listening mode if that’s a better fit.  You could pretend you are a reporter.  Try to listen to the story in a way that you can recall the details or the emotions.  Anything that will help you be out of your head and into the moment will do.  When you’re present with others, you’re less available for anxiety to dominate your thoughts.

5. Give Yourself Permission to Take a Break

Thanksgiving gatherings can be intense, and it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions in these settings. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to step away. You can head to the bathroom and do some box breathing or a quick meditation from any app that can help soothe you.  Maybe even a favorite song that helps soothe your nerves or really pulls you into the moment because it just makes you want to dance. Sometimes just intentionally changing locations or scenery will help your body & mood reset a little and give you time to choose a new game plan to offload what you're feeling and find a new path forward to connect to others. 

Taking breaks doesn’t mean you’re letting anxiety win—it means you’re taking care of yourself. If you find that stepping outside to breathe, stretch, or simply sit in silence helps, then do it. By respecting your needs, you’re showing anxiety that you’re in charge of your well-being and that it doesn’t have the final say.

Embracing the Thanksgiving Plus One

It might feel odd to think of anxiety as a guest rather than an intruder, but when we resist anxiety, it often digs in its heels. By acknowledging it—seeing it, setting boundaries, and allowing it to be part of your experience without dictating every part of your day or weekend, it will allow you to take your power back. 

Remember, anxiety might not always be the most graceful guest, but with a little patience and self-compassion, you can share the table with it. The goal isn’t to get rid of anxiety entirely; it’s to let it join without letting it run the show.

This Thanksgiving, give yourself permission to feel however you feel, knowing that you have the tools to navigate the complex landscape of emotions that come with it. And when anxiety inevitably pulls up a chair, face it, take a breath, and remember that you are not your anxiety.  You will get through this, and you will be okay.

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3. Be more present this holiday season!

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Common Anxiety Myths: Separating Fact from Fiction

We all experience anxiety when we are starting something new that may be a little overwhelming.  This is perfectly normal and sometimes even helpful as a little anxiety that is short-acting, can sometimes sharpen our focus and help us to perform. But when the intensity doesn’t match the circumstances or when it doesn’t go away after a stressor is gone, then you may be experiencing anxiety.  It’s helpful to know a little bit more about what is fact or fiction so that you can feel more empowered to seek help or help someone you love get the help they deserve.  As with all mental health concerns, we hear a lot of catchphrases and opinions about it, and at times it's hard to know what is true.  So let’s do some myth-busting today. 

Myth 1: Anxiety is just stress.

One of the most persistent myths about anxiety is that it is simply another word for stress, a natural part of everyday life. While stress and anxiety can feel similar, they are not the same. Stress is a short-term response to a specific threat or challenge, like a looming deadline or an argument with a loved one. It tends to resolve once the stressor is gone. It can be uncomfortable but typically feels manageable.

Anxiety, on the other hand, is more chronic. It often presents and persists even when there is no immediate threat. Anxiety disorders are characterized by excessive worry or fear that interferes with daily activities, relationships, and overall quality of life. While stress can be uncomfortable, anxiety often involves specific thought patterns such as rumination or intrusive thoughts. 

Rumination feels like you are on the race track, and you cannot get off.  Intrusive thoughts jump into your awareness at the most inconvenient moments and hijack your focus, and your peace, and sometimes make you feel like you have to fix things somehow.  Anxiety has physical symptoms that can come with anxiety (such as a racing heart or difficulty breathing), and which can lead to avoidance behaviors. It’s important to understand that anxiety is more than just an exaggerated stress response—it's a mental health condition with treatment that can help.

Myth 2: Anxiety is a sign of weakness.

Thankfully, this belief is starting to dwindle as mental health stigma is diminishing. When people do not understand something in themselves or others it is easy to jump into judgment mode & downplay or shame someone or something.  

However, anxiety can affect anyone, regardless of how "strong" they are perceived to be. People from all walks of life—students, professionals, athletes, and celebrities—experience anxiety. It’s essential to view anxiety in the same way we view other health conditions, like diabetes or asthma. You wouldn’t consider someone with asthma weak for needing an inhaler, and in the same way, someone with anxiety shouldn't be judged for seeking therapy or taking medication.

Myth 3: People with anxiety should just “calm down” or “snap out of it.”

People who have experienced anxiety desperately wish that the Nike slogan of “just do it” would work when it comes to anxiety.  Nothing feels worse than unwanted emotions that leave you keyed up, on edge, and constantly worrying.  Statements like “Just relax,” or “You’re overthinking it,” can be incredibly harmful because they minimize the real and overwhelming experiences that people with anxiety face.

Anxiety disorders are not just a matter of overthinking or worrying excessively—they involve changes in brain chemistry that make it difficult for individuals to regulate their emotions. Telling someone with anxiety to “calm down” is like telling someone with a broken leg to “just walk.” The symptoms are often beyond their control and require professional support to manage.

Encouraging self-care, offering empathy, and guiding individuals to seek professional treatment (such as therapy or medication) are much more helpful responses than telling them to simply get over it.

Myth 4: Anxiety only affects the mind.

Many people assume anxiety is purely a mental issue, but its effects are far-reaching and often very physical. Anxiety can manifest in the body in a variety of ways, including:

• Rapid heartbeat or palpitations

• Shortness of breath or hyperventilation

• Muscle tension or pain

• Sweating or chills

• Dizziness or light-headedness

• Gastrointestinal issues like nausea, diarrhea, or stomach pain

• Fatigue or insomnia

In fact, many individuals with anxiety disorders first seek medical help because they are experiencing physical symptoms and may not initially recognize that anxiety is the root cause. Understanding that anxiety affects both the mind and body is critical in destigmatizing the condition and recognizing its full impact on a person's health and well-being.

Myth 5: Anxiety will go away on its own if you ignore it.

Some believe that anxiety is something you can just “wait out” and that, eventually, it will fade on its own. Unfortunately, this isn’t usually the case. Anxiety disorders often worsen over time without proper treatment and intervention. Ignoring anxiety or avoiding situations that trigger it can actually strengthen its grip, leading to more intense symptoms and greater impairment in daily life.

The good news is that anxiety is highly treatable. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), exposure therapy, and some of the trauma modalities can also help anxiety to be more manageable. Medications are also good options for helping to reduce anxiety. The earlier someone seeks treatment, the better their chances of managing anxiety effectively and improving their quality of life.

Myth 6: Anxiety is always caused by a traumatic event.

While trauma can trigger anxiety in some individuals, anxiety disorders are not always tied to a specific event. Anxiety can arise from a complex interplay of factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, environmental stressors, and personality traits.

For some, anxiety may develop gradually over time, without a clear “cause” or triggering event. Others may experience situational anxiety, such as fear of public speaking, while some have a more generalized form of anxiety that permeates many aspects of their lives. It's important to recognize that anxiety is not always rooted in a specific event or trauma, and each person's experience is unique.

Myth 7: People with anxiety can't lead successful lives.

Finally, one of the most harmful myths is that anxiety prevents people from living fulfilling, successful lives. While anxiety can be debilitating at times, many individuals manage their symptoms with the right support and go on to lead happy, productive, and successful lives. With proper treatment and coping strategies, individuals with anxiety can achieve their goals and thrive in their personal and professional lives.

If you feel like your worry seems like it has taken over or always interfered with your ability to do what you’d really like to do, do not hesitate to seek help.  You can see your medical doctor or set up an appointment with a therapist.  Both can talk with you to determine what type of anxiety symptoms you are having and which anxiety disorder you may be experiencing.  Actively trying to seek support will help you better understand yourself and your struggles.  You will also be able to gain tools to help you cope better, reduce symptoms, and learn how to cope with your anxiety in more effective ways. 

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2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start coping with your anxiety in more healthy ways!

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Types of Eating Disorders Part II: Anorexia Nervosa vs Atypical Anorexia Nervosa

You’ve probably heard the term “anorexia” before, maybe in passing or even from someone close to you. It's one of the most well-known eating disorders, but what exactly does it mean? And did you know there’s a lesser-known condition called atypical anorexia that’s just as serious? Let’s talk about both and break down what they are and how they can show up in real life.

What is Anorexia Nervosa?

When someone says anorexia, most people have a very specific stereotype or image that comes to mind. I often hear people describe that as someone who “never eats” and looks significantly underweight. It will often include, but is not limited to the following key characteristics:

1. Intense Fear of Gaining Weight: Individuals with anorexia nervosa have an overwhelming fear of gaining weight or maintaining weight, regardless of their current or historical weight, shape, or size.

2. Distorted Body Image: They often have a distorted perception of their body size and shape, believing they are consuming more space or in a significantly larger body than they are actually in.

3. Severe Caloric Restriction: There is a persistent restriction of food intake, leading to significant health issues and in some cases, a low body weight.

4. Compensatory Behaviors: many individuals will compensate for food intake by exercising, purging, or taking laxatives or diet pills.

5. Amenorrhea: In females, the loss of menstruation, known as amenorrhea, is a common physical symptom of anorexia nervosa in the traditional sense.

Physically, the symptoms are pretty noticeable if someone is meeting the full criteria for anorexia nervosa because part of that criteria includes weight dropping below a specific benchmark that is typically visibly noticeable to others. People with anorexia also often deny how much weight they’ve lost, or they may not see their body as it actually is, believing they are bigger than they actually are. Typically their self-perception is so thwarted by the disorder that they rarely see that they are underweight or that being underweight is problematic, despite any logic others present to them.

Atypical Anorexia is More Prevalent

Atypical anorexia shares many of the same symptoms as anorexia nervosa. The difference? People with atypical anorexia don’t necessarily appear underweight. In fact, they might be at a “normal” weight or even overweight, according to standard measures like BMI. So, what does this mean? Essentially, atypical anorexia involves the same fear of gaining weight, the same restriction of food intake, and the same obsession with thinness—but the physical appearance doesn’t match what many people expect when they think of anorexia.

Atypical anorexia shares many of the same symptoms as anorexia nervosa. The difference? People with atypical anorexia don’t necessarily appear underweight. In fact, they might be at a “normal” weight or in a larger body that is above a standard BMI range. So, what does this mean? Essentially, atypical anorexia involves the same fear of gaining or maintaining weight, the same restriction of food intake, the same compensatory behaviors, and the same obsession with thinness—but the physical appearance doesn’t match what many people expect when they think of anorexia.

This can make atypical anorexia even harder to spot. Sometimes, because the person doesn’t “look sick,” their struggles can be dismissed, even by medical professionals. Friends, family, and even the person themselves might overlook the signs because of the misconception that you have to be thin to have an eating disorder. But the reality is that the mental and emotional toll is just as serious, regardless of what the body looks like.

How Does it Feel to Have These Disorders?

If you’re reading this and something feels familiar, I want to acknowledge how tough it can be to recognize that something might be wrong. Maybe you’ve been dealing with obsessive thoughts about food or your weight, or perhaps you find yourself cutting back on how much you eat without realizing it. Sometimes, it’s not just about skipping meals, but also about feeling guilty or anxious after eating. Maybe you even over-exercise or purge to “make up for” eating, or you feel like you can never allow yourself to fully relax when it comes to food.

The thing is, anorexia and atypical anorexia often don’t start all at once. They can creep in slowly, and before you know it, these thoughts and behaviors become a part of your daily life. You might think, “I’m just being healthy” or “I’m just trying to stay in shape,” but when those actions are driven by fear, guilt, or shame, it’s worth asking yourself whether you’ve crossed a line.

The Emotional Side

Both anorexia nervosa and atypical anorexia are driven by more than just a desire to be thin. Often, they’re linked to deeper emotional struggles like anxiety, depression, or unrealistic self-expectations paired with a very strong inner critic. Maybe life feels overwhelming, and focusing on food and weight seems like a way to gain control or sidestep the emotions you want to quiet. Or maybe it’s a way to try to feel “good enough” in a world that makes us all feel like we need to be perfect.

It’s also not uncommon for these disorders to be fueled by external pressure, whether it’s from society, social media, or even well-meaning comments from friends or family. We live in a world that glorifies thinness/weight loss and places so much value on how we look, it’s easy to see how someone could start to feel like their worth is tied to their weight. But it’s so important to remember that your value doesn’t come from a number on a scale.

Why It’s Hard to Seek Help

One of the biggest challenges of dealing with anorexia, atypical or otherwise, is that it’s often hard to see the problem for what it is. You might think, “I’m not thin enough to have an eating disorder,” or “I’m just trying to be healthy.” Maybe you even feel proud of how disciplined you’ve been when it comes to restricting your food intake.

But these disorders thrive in secrecy. The more you keep it to yourself, the stronger the grip it can have on you. And because it can be so difficult to admit that something might be wrong, it’s common for people to avoid seeking help until things feel unbearable.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “This sounds a little like me,” it’s okay to feel uncertain. Maybe you’re not sure if you need help or if what you’re dealing with is “serious enough.” But let me tell you—your feelings and experiences matter. You don’t need to reach a certain level of thinness or struggle before you deserve support. If food, weight, or body image are causing you distress, that’s reason enough to reach out for help.

If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know that you’re not alone, and you’re not beyond help. Whether you’re dealing with anorexia nervosa, atypical anorexia, or just disordered eating, your struggles are valid, and you deserve support. Healing takes time, but it’s possible. You are more than your body, more than your weight, and more than any fear or shame that might be keeping you stuck.

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Types of Eating Disorders Part 1: Orthorexia

As an eating disorder therapist in Provo, Utah, I often encounter various misconceptions about eating disorders. These misconceptions are about who is likely to have an eating disorder, what behaviors are connected to an eating disorder, and that all eating disorders are the same. So I’m going to break it down for you in this blog series. We’ll start with the lesser-known eating disorder that has become more socially acceptable and often goes untreated as a result. It’s referred to as Orthroexia by eating disorder therapists and can often lead to Anorexia.

What is Orthorexia?

Orthorexia nervosa, often simply referred to as orthorexia, is an eating disorder characterized by an obsessive focus on healthy eating. Unlike other eating disorders that center around the quantity of food consumed, orthorexia fixates on the quality and or “purity” of food. Individuals with orthorexia may eliminate entire food groups from their diet, fearing they are “unhealthy”, and spend an inordinate amount of time planning, purchasing, and preparing their meals to ensure they meet self-imposed standards of health.

Similarities to Anorexia Nervosa

While orthorexia and anorexia nervosa are distinct disorders, they share some similarities:

Preoccupation with Food:

Both disorders involve an intense preoccupation with food, albeit with different focuses—quality for orthorexia and quantity of food with anorexia nervosa.

Control and Restriction:

Individuals with both disorders use food as a means to exert control over their underlying anxieties, leading to restrictive eating patterns.

Perfectionism:

A common trait among sufferers of both conditions is a drive for perfectionism, manifesting in their rigid dietary rules and behaviors.

Negative Impact on Health:

Both disorders can lead to severe nutritional deficiencies and health complications, although the pathways differ.

Differences from Anorexia Nervosa

Despite these similarities, orthorexia and anorexia nervosa have distinct characteristics:

Focus of Obsession:

The primary difference lies in the focus of the obsession. Orthorexia centers on the “purity” and healthiness of food, while anorexia nervosa focuses on calorie intake and beliefs about how food impacts a person's weight.

Motivation:

Individuals with orthorexia are motivated by a desire to achieve optimal health, whereas those with anorexia nervosa are driven by a fear of gaining weight and a desire to become thinner.

Recognition and Diagnosis:

Anorexia nervosa is a well-recognized and diagnostically defined eating disorder in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition), while orthorexia is not yet officially recognized as a distinct eating disorder, making diagnosis and treatment more challenging.

Key Features of Anorexia Nervosa

Anorexia nervosa is characterized by several hallmark features:

Intense Fear of Gaining Weight:

Individuals with anorexia nervosa have an overwhelming fear of gaining weight or maintaining weight, regardless of their current or historical weight, shape, or size.

Distorted Body Image:

They often have a distorted perception of their body size and shape, believing they are consuming more space or in a significantly larger body than they are actually in.

Severe Caloric Restriction:

There is a persistent restriction of food intake, leading to significant health issues and in some cases, a low body weight.

Amenorrhea:

In females, the loss of menstruation, known as amenorrhea, is a common physical symptom of anorexia nervosa.

The Path from Orthorexia to Anorexia:

Orthorexia, with its obsessive focus on healthy eating, can sometimes act as a precursor to anorexia nervosa. This transition often occurs as the rigid dietary rules and restrictions associated with orthorexia become more extreme. What starts as an intense dedication to consuming only "clean" or "pure" foods can evolve into an overarching obsession with calorie restriction and weight loss, hallmarks of anorexia nervosa.

One key factor in this progression is the psychological and emotional overlap between orthorexia and anorexia.

Both disorders involve a desire for control and perfectionism, often rooted in deeper issues such as anxiety, low self-esteem, or a need to manage stress. As the individual’s criteria for what is considered "healthy" food become increasingly stringent, their dietary choices may become more limited, leading to significant caloric deficits. This shift from prioritizing health to avoiding calories can gradually transform orthorexia into anorexia.

The societal and cultural pressures that glorify thinness and the "perfect" body can also play a significant role in this transition. Individuals with orthorexia may start to internalize these ideals, equating their self-worth with their ability to maintain a certain body shape or weight. As their focus shifts from the quality of food to the quantity consumed, they may begin to exhibit behaviors typical of anorexia nervosa, such as extreme food restriction, an intense fear of gaining weight, and a distorted body image.

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This transition is often insidious, with the initial intentions of eating healthily becoming overshadowed by an obsessive need to control body weight and appearance. Recognizing the signs of this shift is crucial for early intervention. If you or someone you know is exhibiting increasingly restrictive eating patterns or an unhealthy preoccupation with food and body weight, seek professional help from our team of caring therapists who can help prevent the progression from orthorexia to anorexia. Inside Wellness can offer support for the journey toward recovery. If you or a loved one needs help with eating concerns or an eating disorder, please follow these simple steps:

1. Contact us or give us a call at 801-699-6161

2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start overcoming your eating disorder!

Other Services Offered with Inside Wellness

Eating disorder treatment isn’t the only service Inside Wellness offers support with addressing. Our team is happy to offer support with other forms of mental health support including anxiety treatment and body image therapy. Learn more about the support in person or online therapy can offer today by visiting our blog or FAQ today.

Coping with Body Image and Back-to-School Anxieties

As the summer nights start to get shorter, your mind drifts into the upcoming school year.

You might be excited to see your friends and dive into new classes, but alongside this excitement, you may also struggle with anxiety—especially about body image. Maybe the thought of stepping onto campus again fills you with fear or dread because insecurities about your appearance start flooding into your mind. 

You are not alone, returning to college can be a daunting experience, particularly if you’re struggling with negative body image. The idea of being constantly surrounded by peers and the pressure to fit into societal beauty standards can fuel feelings of inadequacy. Perhaps you spent the summer avoiding mirrors or social gatherings because you were uncomfortable with how you looked. Now, with the new semester approaching, the fear of judgment from others might be intensifying.

These feelings can manifest in several ways. You might find yourself obsessively comparing your body to others, considering ways to avoid social activities, or engaging in disordered eating habits. The stress of the academic year combined with these insecurities can make the start of the school year feel overwhelming. 

The good news is that there are ways to help you cope with these fears & feelings. Here are a few tips to help you as the school year gets underway:

Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step towards managing these anxieties is acknowledging them. It’s okay to feel this way, and you’re not alone. Many students face similar struggles, and it’s important to recognize that your feelings are valid. When we accept our feelings it helps our brain feel normalized and we can start to feel better. Understanding what’s behind our fears or insecurities is also an important step. 

Our brains have to make sense of our experiences, so they will fill in the gaps with stories or beliefs that could make sense to us but often are untrue. When it comes to body image anxiety it is very common to have lots of these stories about our bodies because our culture has inundated us with unrealistic body standards. So when we feel anxious about feeling accepted by our friends, finding a partner, and a million other things that cause anxiety, we can quickly jump into inaccurate stories that make perfect sense to us.  If these go unchecked, it is hard for us or others to challenge or change them.

For example, if I am fearful that my body will impact others accepting me at the party, then I may attend the party & not interact much, which will only reinforce my fears. Or I may skip the party altogether, which will make me feel safer initially but will keep me from meeting people to expand my social circle. 

Body image anxiety often leads to self-judgment & self-rejection more than rejection from others.

Allow others to be aware of your fears so that they can support you.  If our roommate knows that we fear rejection from our body size/shape, they may be able to remind us that if someone actually rejects us for our body shape/size, this is a red flag and that we wouldn’t want to be friends with that person anyway. Or they can remind you that attending the party, while uncomfortable, will likely go better than you think if you can go & get really engaged. You can also feel more supported while you are doing the scary thing because when we feel like someone knows we are up against a challenge, we automatically feel more supported & capable of handling it. 

Focus on Function

Instead of concentrating solely on how your body looks, shift your focus to how it functions on your behalf. This will not change those negative beliefs or insecurities, but it will help your focus.  It will help your brain to anchor out into another perspective on your body.  Instead of viewing it from an aesthetics standpoint, we can focus on how it functions on our behalf.  Zooming out brings in a more balanced perspective and can de-emphasise some of the fears we hold tightly when we are worried.  Identify a few things that your body has helped you to do- hiking with friends, hugging your grandma, handling hard classes last semester, and the list can go on. Our bodies are actually quite remarkable, and when we feel anxious our brain gets out of balance and we can look at ways to to help ourselves through those moments. 

 Practice Self-Care

 Self-care isn’t just about pampering yourself; it’s about taking steps to care for your physical, emotional, and mental health. Self-care can include things like meditation, journaling, or simply taking time out of your day to relax and unwind. When we are more stressed or anxious about school, family, work, etc our brains are going to be more self-critical.  So doing things to bring down your overall emotional temperature or stress levels will directly improve your mood, which in turn will often soften your negative feelings about yourself & your body. 

Self-care is also about honoring our distress in comforting & compassionate ways. We can do this by saying & doing things for ourselves that we naturally do for others. At any time, we can put our hands on our hearts or on our knees or any place that feels comforting.  We can talk to ourselves in the same way we would if we were talking to our best friend.  Try to use the same tone & language you use if your friend was feeling or going through the exact same thing as you are at that moment.  Comfort helps us to feel calm and to have more courage.  And while it's always helpful to receive this from others, we can greatly benefit from seeking it from ourselves.

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As you prepare to head back to college, remember that you are not defined by your body. Your worth is not determined by how you look, but by who you are and the unique qualities you bring to the table. By implementing these strategies, you can manage your anxieties and start the new semester.  If you find that your anxiety or your body image is hijacking your peace or keeping you from fully living your life, don’t hesitate to seek professional support.  Body image and anxiety can be complicated and getting customized tools can improve your ability to embrace yourself & your life more fully. Inside Wellness would be happy to offer support. If you are in Provo, SLC, and are looking for a caring therapist, follow these simple steps

1. Visit our contact page or, give us a call 801-699-6161, or email at info@insidewellness.com

2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start overcoming body image stress in the new school year!

Other Services Offered with Inside Wellness

Body image therapy isn’t the only service Inside Wellness offers support with addressing. Our team is happy to offer support with other forms of mental health support including anxiety treatment and eating disorder treatment. Learn more about the support in person or online therapy can offer today by visiting our blog or FAQ today.

How Would a Therapist or Doctor Know if I Have an Eating Disorder & What Type I Have?

If you’re worried that you or someone you know might have an eating disorder, it’s important to see a professional who can help assess & diagnose this serious mental health/medical condition. Eating disorders can be nuanced and can go undiagnosed if someone isn’t assessed by someone who is an expert in the field. The best place to start would be a therapist and or MD who has worked extensively in the treatment of those who struggle with these disorders. You would want to find a provider & establish an initial appointment or assessment for yourself of the person who you are worried about.

Initial Consultation: What to Expect

The first step in diagnosing an eating disorder typically involves an initial consultation with a healthcare professional, such as a therapist, doctor, or specialist in eating disorders. During this visit, they will gather comprehensive information about your eating habits, medical history, and psychological health. Here’s what you can expect:

Clinical Interview:

The provider will ask detailed questions about your overall emotional & physical well-being. They will explore eating patterns, exercise habits, thoughts about food and body image, and any behaviors that might indicate an eating disorder (e.g., binge eating, purging, restrictive eating).

Medical History:

A thorough review of your medical history is essential. This includes any previous diagnoses, current medications, and family history of eating disorders or other mental health conditions.

Physical Examination:

If one of your appointments is with a physician, they will conduct a standard medical assessment and should screen for metrics specific to eating disorder behaviors or malnutrition risks. This might include a blind weight, measuring your height, and vital signs, as well as conducting blood tests to check for electrolyte imbalances, malnutrition, or other health issues.

Psychological Assessments or Measures

In addition to the clinical interview and physical examination, some providers may have you complete questionnaires prior to the appointment. They are looking for things specific to an eating disorder or disordered eating as well as common mental health concerns that tend to be connected to an eating disorder. Common assessments include:

Self-Report Questionnaires:

These standardized tools ask about your eating behaviors, attitudes towards food and body image, and related psychological symptoms. Examples include the Eating Disorder Examination Questionnaire (EDE-Q) and the Eating Attitudes Test (EAT).

Structured Interviews:

In-depth interviews conducted by a trained professional help gather detailed information about your eating habits, body image, and emotional state. The Eating Disorder Examination (EDE) is a commonly used structured interview.

Healthcare professionals are trained to use a manual that overviews diagnostic criteria before rendering a diagnosis and treatment plan. Any therapist utilizes the DSM-5, which outlines specific criteria for various eating disorders, including:

Anorexia Nervosa:

Characterized by restricted food intake leading to malnutrition, intense fear of gaining weight, and a distorted body image. Subtypes include:

Restricting Type: Reduced food intake, with or without excessive exercise.

Binge-Eating/Purging Type: Involves recurrent episodes of binge eating or purging behaviors (e.g., vomiting, laxative misuse, and over-exercising).

Bulimia Nervosa: Involves recurrent episodes of binge eating followed by compensatory behaviors to prevent weight gain (e.g., vomiting, excessive exercise, misuse of laxatives).

Binge Eating Disorder: Characterized by recurrent episodes of binge eating without the regular use of compensatory behaviors. Episodes are associated with feelings of distress, guilt, or shame and occur at least once a week for three months.

Other Specified Feeding or Eating Disorder (OSFED): This applies to individuals who exhibit significant eating disorder symptoms but do not meet the full criteria for anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, or binge eating disorder.

Determining the Type of Eating Disorder

To determine the specific type of eating disorder, the healthcare professional will use information from meeting with you & reviewing the assessments. They may consult with any other providers you have already seen such as a medical provider, a registered dietitian who is an eating disorder specialist, and possibly whomever referred you to be assessed. These consultations will only happen with your written permission and are not necessary to move forward with rendering their professional opinion/diagnosis.

Once a diagnosis is made, the healthcare professional will work with you to develop a treatment plan per the standard of care in the field. This treatment approach should include a medical provider, a specialized registered dietician, and an eating disorder therapist. Regardless of what type of eating disorder they think you have, all three types of providers are the standard of care.

Many providers who will do an assessment for you will likely be an option to be a part of your treatment team. However, they may also provide recommendations for team members or even refer you to someone who they feel is the best fit for your symptoms, personality, location, and financial circumstances.

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Stay tuned for our upcoming blog series that walks you through how to know what type of eating disorder you have, as they are often not as straightforward as they may seem. And to answer the common question about if you can have more than one eating disorder at a time. Start your therapy journey with Inside Wellness by following these simple steps:

1. Contact us or give us a call at 801-699-6161

2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start overcoming your eating disorder!

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Maintaining Eating Disorder Recovery & Summer BBQ’s

Summertime is normally associated with warm temperatures, long days, and loads of outdoor activities. 

Typically most people look forward to and enjoy the summer months where social connection seems high and fun is in the air.  However, if you are working on recovering from an eating disorder the summertime months can be very stressful.  Instead of dreaming about going to the lake, the beach, and BBQs with friends, you are worried about how you will manage all of those events. 

Here are a few tips to help you handle your day with more ease:

Eat Like It’s a Normal Day:

Don’t skip meals or restrict your intake earlier in the day to “save” calories for the BBQ. Stick to your regular eating schedule that you & your treatment team have established. 

Set Boundaries:

Be clear about your boundaries regarding food and conversations. If discussions about diet, weight, or appearance arise, gently steer the conversation to a different topic or excuse yourself.

Focus on Socializing:

Shift your focus from food to socializing. Engage in conversations, participate in activities, and enjoy the company of friends and family. Of course, the food aspect may be challenging AND it is one part of the event and merely an excuse for people to gather & connect. 

Practice Mindfulness:

Use mindfulness techniques to stay present and reduce anxiety. Pay attention to your hunger and fullness cues, and see what food items you actually enjoy.

Have a Support System:

Bring a supportive friend or family member who understands your situation. Having someone to talk to can provide comfort and help you stay grounded when the overwhelm starts to arise.

Use Coping Strategies:

Have a list of coping strategies ready in case you start feeling overwhelmed. This might include deep breathing, identifying 5 things you can see or hear, or stepping away for a few minutes of alone time.

Set Realistic Expectations:

Recognize that it’s okay to feel anxious or uncomfortable. Recovery is a journey, and those who love you will be happy you are there and doing your best. 

Plan for Afterwards:

Have a plan for after the BBQ to decompress and practice self-care. This could involve talking to a trusted friend, journaling about your experience, or engaging in a relaxing activity.

One Meal & One BBQ At A Time-

It’s important to remind yourself before, during, and after that this is one BBQ. Meaning that one meal can’t make or break your weight, your recovery, or your relationships.  Sometimes it’s easy to put so much emphasis on things that are new or daunting.  Your treatment team will help you plan for these events and help you see what went well and what went differently than hoped for after each summertime event.  

What we wish recovery looked like and actually looks like are often two different things. 

Life can be messy and progress in any area always takes trial and error, rinse & repeat.  Anytime you are trying to show up in your life & participate is a win!  And in time, and with curiosity & generosity for yourself, things will get better and BBQs will become more enjoyable. 

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If you feel you need more support restoring peace to your relationship with food or your body, contact our team of caring therapists. Help is available and you don’t have to do it alone. You can start your therapy journey with Inside Wellness by following these simple steps:

1. Contact us or call at 801-699-6161.

2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start changing your story!

Other Services Offered with Inside Wellness

Eating disorder treatment isn’t the only service Inside Wellness offers support with addressing. Our team is happy to offer support with other forms of mental health support including anxiety treatment and body image therapy. Learn more about the support in person or online therapy can offer today by visiting our blog or FAQ today.

How Does Online Eating Disorder Treatment Work?

Have you ever wondered what online eating disorder treatment is and if it will work for you? 

Eating disorder treatment, be it online or in person, has the same team members involved.  Eating disorder treatment has 3 team members involved to help you.  

Medical Provider:

When doing eating disorder treatment you will be asked to work with a medical provider (MD, NP, PA) who has specialized training in working with individuals who have an eating disorder.  This person will order essential labs, take your vitals, and often order an EKG.  They will help in addressing any abnormalities and overseeing the risks that come with an eating disorder. 

This part of your treatment will need to be in person and could have a virtual option depending on where you are in the recovery process.  If we cannot find a person who does understand eating disorders well, then your other team members can contact your medical provider to give them resources that specify protocols they need to follow as designated by the Academy of Eating Disorders which does the research on all things medical.

Therapist:

You can work with a therapist who is exclusively online or offers a hybrid option or who is only in person.  Most providers, be it in-person sessions or online sessions, use virtual systems to do all paperwork & ongoing assessments as needed. This is 100% up to your preference for what works best for you.   There is no right or wrong on this front, it truly is a personal decision. If you feel like virtual sessions will allow you to attend therapy in a private, and safe environment that works better for your schedule then this may be a great option for you. If you feel like you can open up equally well or even better in a virtual setting vs in person, then definitely consider this option.

However, if you feel like the screen will be a barrier or you have a hard time getting in touch with your feelings and need someone in the room with you to do so, then you probably would do best with in-person team members.  I have had clients who do feel they can open up well online, but honestly just prefer to be in person for a variety of reasons. There is no right or wrong answer here, so do what is best for you and or pivot if you try online and decide it’s not your thing.  Your therapist will understand and help you to find a skilled provider who offers in-person sessions.  

Dietician:

The dietician can also be in person, offer a hybrid, or be fully online.  Typically in eating disorder care, providers will use data points to assess process & medical stability.  The dietician will typically want to track food intake, which we often do via a recovery app, and get regular weights at the start of treatment.  If your dietician is fully online, then he/she may recommend you get a scale that does “blind weights”.   A blind weight is a term we use to describe the process where a person is weighed but does not see the number on the scale, since weight metrics are often triggering to our clients and or fuel the eating disorder into more extreme measures. 

So, the dietician will recommend a few options where you step on a scale that does not show you your weight but has a system set up that the weight can only be viewed by the treatment team.  This allows you to participate fully in treatment as if it were in person, with the convenience of doing so from home and saving your travel time from going into an office for dietary appointments or seeing an MD for that data point. 

All team members collaborate via phone, email, or online connection to collaborate in your care.  The frequency of collaboration will vary depending on where you are in the recovery process.  

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If you have questions if online eating disorder treatment is for you, please reach out to our team. We’ll be happy to help you see if it’s a good fit.  If it isn’t, we will be happy to connect you with personal providers, we just want you to get the help you need in the best way for you. You can start your therapy journey with Inside Wellness by following these steps

1. Give us a call 801-699-6161

2. Meet with a caring therapist

3. Start receiving the support system you deserve!

Other Services Offered with Inside Wellness

We understand that you may experience more than one mental health concern at a time. This is why our team is happy to offer support with a variety of services including eating disorders, body image counseling, anxiety treatment, and online Therapy in Utah. Feel free to visit our blog for more helpful information today!

Change Your Story, Not Your Swimsuit: How to Calm Your Anxiety About Your Body

The birds are chirping, the sun is sizzling and fear starts to run through your veins as you think about all of the upcoming summer events that require a swimsuit. 

You have noticed the uptick from your inner critic about your body and you are starting to dread the season you love most.  You wish that you could just find ease in this area of your life but so far, nothing seems to work.

Here are a few things to consider as you prepare for the pool and you notice your anxiety starting to rise:

Maybe your body is NOT the actual problem. 

Everywhere we turn we are bombarded with messages about changing our bodies.  You see it on TV, in commercials, on social media, and oftentimes most social circles have some chatter about trying X diet to change the way you look.  You’ve tried some of these things and it ended poorly because it led you into an eating disorder, or temporarily feeling better to only land back at the same place-hating on your body.  So what if we shifted to focus on the real culprit, your beliefs about your body?  If we see our bodies as the problem, then it makes sense why preoccupation about them crops up.  However, if we see our beliefs about our body as the problem, then we can start to focus on changing those beliefs.

Explore your Stormy First Draft: 

Let’s take a look at your SFDs (stormy first drafts).  A stormy first draft is an internal story or narrative that surfaces about a specific topic or situation.  It's typically the thing that we don’t always want to share with others because it is harsh or ignites shame.   Oftentimes we have these thoughts so frequently or quickly that we aren’t aware that we are having them, so negative beliefs go unchecked, which means we accept them as truths.  So it’s no wonder why we feel anxious or bad when we are getting ready to go to the pool if we are saying things to ourselves that we would never say to anyone else.  Our brains are amazing, and sometimes unhelpful at times.  Let me explain, our brain has to have some type of story or narrative about everything that happens.

So between the event & conclusion, we must have a story, the problem here is that the story does not have to be accurate for our brain to reward us, it just has to make sense to us. 

Que SFDs that can feel SO convincing but may not be accurate to the situation and more often than not, can tie into our deepest fears or negative image of ourselves in any area.  So if we do poorly on a test it’s easy for our brain to insert a narrative about an insecurity, such as “Now everyone is going to know how stupid you are and that you faked your way into college”.  So when it comes to body image, in a culture that tells us we always have to be changing how we look, it’s easy to see how we could have some SFDs that really sink the emotional ship so to speak. 

Change your story instead of your swimsuit or your body. 

Body image is a tough topic because it often feels overwhelming and hard to change.  It’s not about believing that you look good all the time, it’s believing that your body IS good.  Full stop.  However, it may or may not look at any given time.  It’s about treating your body respectfully & engaging fully in life in the body you are in.  It’s learning to catch those SFDs and challenge them or change them.  It is about talking more compassionately or kindly to ourselves & our bodies. We can do this by putting some compassion around an SFD that we feel we cannot change, at least not in the moment it surfaces.  

We can do that by identifying how painful it is to feel that way about ourselves & pinpointing the context of where that belief came from.  Such as “Wow, that SFD is really painful because it came from (x negative experience) and so it makes sense that it is hitting me really hard.  AND I am trusting that others can accept me and love me for who I am and would want me to participate fully today”. 

We can label the source of the problem as “Wow, my brain is really trying to blame my body for its outburst today” or “My beliefs are really convincing today and I’m trying not to listen to them”. Once again, we’ve learned to change our bodies over the years, not to work on changing our minds, and yet true freedom comes in learning how to do this, it takes time & practice so be patient with yourself.  

We can respond to ourselves the way we would to a friend who is having a hard time. 

We can actually say out loud or in our minds what we would honestly say to a friend who was having a hard time with their own body.  We typically do this by reminding them that they are being hard or unfair to themselves and we remind them that we value them over their body & we want them to join us in having fun that day.  We may give them a hug or try to make them smile in some way.  So don’t hesitate to give yourself a hug or a gentle touch, as cheesy as it may sound in this moment, it really can help us feel comforted and supported.  

We can text a friend and let them know we are in shame.  This can look like “Hey, I’m spinning out in body shame right now.  Remind me that I am loveable as I am” or “……..remind me that I am more than a body”.  

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Learning to see our SFDs & change them will help you feel more calm as you put on that swimsuit & get into summer living.  Changing our beliefs can be hard, but we are here to help.  Reach out to our team of therapists if you feel you could use some support & tools in unpacking beliefs that hold you back.  Start your therapy journey with Inside Wellness by following these steps:

1. Contact us or give us a call 801-699-6161

2. Meet with a caring anxiety therapist

3. Start changing your story!

Other Services Offered with Inside Wellness

Anxiety treatment isn’t the only service Inside Wellness offers support with addressing. Our team is happy to offer support with other forms of mental health support including eating disorder treatment and body image therapy. Learn more about the support in person or online therapy can offer today by visiting our blog or FAQ today.